The Karen Update
Closed for now. Last update; July 14, 2005
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Some people have commented that I don't have any pictures of Karen or Jeff on my website...
Here's one of Jeff courtesy of the FDLE
Background:
Karen is Teresa's younger sister, baby of the family. Since I started dating Teresa, I knew there was going to be trouble with Karen. She just comes off as a spoiled-needy-selfish type. She'll do anything just to get the attention focused on her. Good or bad, as long as she's the center of attention. Teresa and I used to bet on whose sister was worse. My sister used to cause a little trouble too, but unlike Karen, Tammy grew up. Karen has won that bet in a "No Contest" decision. As much turmoil as Karen has caused, Teresa still loves her and refuses to write her off. I guess that's as it should be but I just don't have the strength and infinite patience Teresa has shown.
History of the "Karen Update"
At work, Thom and a few others would always ask for an update on the "Karen Situation". Every Monday, there would be a new story from the previous weekend. It became a running joke. Even before I started my FIRST website we though it would be cool to make a website dedicated to the KU. I've been toying with the idea and actually started to create it back in 1998. I didn't get too far before I gave up on the whole web page idea. Fast forward a few years and add in all the new stories from Karen. Every time she drops a new bomb on us, Thom looks at me and asks when I'm going to create the KU page. The time has come. Too much data has been forgotten, too many stories lost. It is time to document the horrors.
I've gotten the page started now and Teresa is going to keep the updates coming. All of her comments will be in BLUE. She's the one that should be writing this anyway, she has the most exposure to the situation but she types in notation form so some of it might have incorrect grammar or punctuation; this is allowed here.
Some of the information will be duplicated but you'll get 2 points of view that way. Teresa also fills in a lot of the blanks I left out.
Our story so far...
(By the Gods how I wish I knew enough to have this on a 'roll-up screen' like Star Wars. Maybe soon...)
There's a lot of history even before I came into the picture but that's not mine to comment upon.
1989
When I started coming around, she was grinding her way through her last 2 years of school. She's not dumb; she just refused to do the work. Sounds like Lizzy now but wait, I don't want to get ahead of myself. Karen hung out with the dope-fiends and losers. When she had a boyfriend that treated her well, she'd find a reason to drop them. The basic rule was, if Mom approved of him, she broke up with him the next day.
1990
Chris & Teresa get engaged, plan on getting married in 92. Karen in high school, starts acting up, failing classes. Attention is on Teresa and upcoming wedding.
1991
Karen doesn't get to graduate with her class, she has to graduate in the summer because she failed 2 classes.
1992
Chris & Teresa get married.
1992
Karen had been dating straight out of the 'Pea-Farm'. Teresa would drive all the way out there so Karen could visit with her boyfriend. While one was locked up, she started dating one that was getting out. A short while after Teresa and I got married, Karen and her boyfriend (Steve?) moved in with us. I didn't want them there but Teresa wouldn't say "no" to Karen and I wouldn't say "no" to Teresa. I avoided them at all possible costs. I don't remember how I got them out. I think I ended up throwing enough of a fit that they left. I do remember that when they moved out, the room smelled like pot, some of our stuff was missing and my 18" speaker had a large hole in it. Small price to pay to be rid of them I guess.
1993
Jerry Jr. graduates from College, Karen does not like all of the attention others are getting. At the time she's moving location to location with now live in boyfriend Steve Mann. After Jerry graduates, she informs Mom and Dad she is pregnant - OOPS, I don't know how that happened, we used protection. The attention is now on Karen - Note - Karen was aware that Chris & Teresa have been trying since their wedding to get pregnant.
1994
Teresa's family helps us out immensely with helping us purchase our first home. They do the same for Karen. Jerry and I do a lot of work around Karen's new house. Karen is supporting her boyfriend while he abuses her. I'm pretty sure physically as well as emotionally. Karen ends up pregnant with Steve's baby. She prances around as happy as can be. The family thinks that this will finally force her to pull her life together. She has a house, a steady job and a baby on the way. Even before the birth, anyone that looked at her could tell that this baby was getting in the way of her partying. As soon as the luster of 'new baby, new mommy' wore off and she was wrist deep in baby-poo, she cracked. Under the guises of "best for the baby" and "temporary", she pawned the baby off on her Mom and Dad. Back to partying and swinging with the bad-boys. She'd later regret her decision and not for the reason you'd expect. She didn't regret giving up her child, she regretted giving up the attention. When Elizabeth was given (thrust upon) Jerry and Lada, everybody fawned all over the baby, not Karen, and Karen couldn't have that. Various individual stories erupted from this era; I just don't remember most of them now. I remember Steve eventually went back to jail and Karen picked up Jerry at the same time. Same situation, supporting the abusive boyfriend. She lost the house, walked away from it. She practically abandoned it. Never let anyone know until it was FAR too late.
January 1994
Mom and Dad begin helping Chris & Teresa to find a house, they will help with down payment to get us out of apartments. Karen insists she needs a place to stay because apartments just won't do for herself and new baby - plus apartments complexes can't handle the petrified poop all over floors and walls and don't forget the stench of old pot. Steve is in and out of jail - breaking and entering. Rumor has it he beats Karen on a regular basis but Karen won't admit it because if she does Mom & Dad will make Steve disappear and there will be no attention for Karen.
April 1994
We all move into our new houses. Karen gets the attention because we are all setting up the new babies room. Steve is in and out of jail and NO ONE likes his mother the lunatic who thinks this new baby is HERS!
June 22, 1994
Karen in her element, Elizabeth is born - is Steven in jail? No? But he didn't show up to the hospital until late cause he was out with his home boys. Grandma Robin was there - the psychotic - she couldn't wait to get a hold of her baby.
Karen goes home with her brand new baby - Mom and Teresa stock up the house with diapers, formula and other baby necessities. We go over daily to check on baby - Karen has little girls - 15/16 year olds hanging out with her to change Elizabeth's diapers, hold Elizabeth - basic care of Elizabeth. Did Karen change a diaper in the first 3 months of Liz's life? I don't think so. She didn't supply the food or necessities for Liz - Mom and Teresa did.
Robin obsessive over baby - MY BABY MY BABY - Steve has no care what so ever - no job no responsibilities - Mom and Teresa handling it. Karen & Steve fighting all the time, Steve beating Karen up - still being a thief - I think he's in jail by this time. Robin is being psycho wanting to take custody of Elizabeth. Karen breaks down and asks if she can move in with Mom & Dad for a while to get Robin off her back. Mom and dad agree - she stays there a few days then tearfully tells Mom & dad she thinks it's best if she leave Liz with them until she can get her act together, until Steve can get out of jail and get a good job etc. She's not giving up Liz, she's just having them keep her temporarily until she can get settled. Karen is allowed to take Liz anytime she wants - she "secretly" takes Liz to the funny farm to visit "daddy" they strip search Liz - taking off her clothes and diapers. Dad finds out and is LIVID. Tells Karen she is never to take Liz there again or ELSE. Karen continues to take Liz there until Steve gets out. Steve and Karen try to get their act together - Steve continues to break in to peoples houses while Karen works double shifts at ESI to pay for the house and their partying habits. No money goes away to help with Elizabeth's care.
After 1 year of Mom and Dad "caring" for Liz, Karen and Steve agree to give temporary guardianship of Liz. Steve disappears after Karen finds him the 3rd time with a girl in her bed.
1995
Karen starts dating Jerry Schzubelek - drunk/druggy. Piece of garbage who steals her money, knocks her around and is an all around jerk. Karen gets the attention she wants - Mom & Dad worried, she may lose her house/her car etc.
December 95
Teresa & Chris try again and again to get pregnant. They finally get the money and the approval from doctors to have surgery.
We get pregnant. No attention on Karen - Elizabeth is safe with mom & Dad -Steve out of the picture - no one is paying attention to what Karen is doing.
Teresa has problem pregnancy - so much attention on Teresa. With doctors appointments and bed rest all the attention is focused on Teresa. Karen does not like that.
July of 1996
Karen quits smoking - we all know why but no one is saying anything. We all start taking bets on when she will break the news. Jerry and his friends steal her car one night and wreck it. Drunk Driving - he's arrested. All attention focused on Karen she's loving it.
August 1996
Teresa not doing well. Bed rest, high blood pressure. Baby has to be induced. Jerry NOT allowed to come to the hospital - that pisses Karen off - how dare they not allow her dramatics at the hospital - but she'll fix them. Chris wins the bet - as Teresa is sitting in a hospital bed, doped up on medication and praying nothing happens to her miracle baby - Karen comes in and breaks the news. She tells mom and dad before coming into Teresa's birthing room. Karen's side of story is that Teresa confronted her and demanded to know the truth - it's Teresa's fault she broke the news to everyone on Rebecca's day.
Teresa home from hospital, Karen living with mom and dad because she broke up the Jerry. The attention was not on Karen so Karen moved back with Jerry forgave him for wrecking her car and everything else.
Attention now focused on Rebecca , Karen makes up stories so she's the main attraction.
1996-1997
Teresa and I had been trying for 4 years to have a baby. After almost $20,000 and 20,000 tears, it finally happened. By this time, Teresa had started listening to me when I told her that Karen was bad news. She didn't hear me, but she listened... The rule was that even though it may be true, I wasn't allowed to say it because it was HER sister. Teresa was burying her head in the sand but she saw what was going on. We were so jaded when it comes to Karen that we both asked what Karen could do to ruin this for us. "Well, she could get pregnant too", Teresa said. Not long after, we hear through her friends that Karen is actually TRYING to get pregnant now. 2 months before Teresa's due date we hear that Karen is now pregnant. Bets go down immediately for when Karen will drop the news. Teresa bet that Karen would wait until after Becca was born. Lada bet on Teresa's baby shower. I bet on the delivery room. I took a lot of flack for that. They said I was horrible for even thinking such a thing. I won the bet. Of all the possible times/places to break the news, she waited until she could steal Teresa's moment. Nice.
This baby she holds on to. She remembered that as soon as she gave up the first one, the attention was no longer on her. At some point Jerry left and Jeff entered as the boyfriend. He comes complete with a record and everything. (She wouldn't have it any other way) However, this one's a little different. He's done time for lewd/lascivious w/minor. That's right folks; he's a registered sex offender. Welcome to the family. We hear five different stories surrounding the conviction, each with him being innocent or even the victim. Karen even tried to pass one version off that it was a buddy of his and Jeff took the rap for him because his buddy was on probation. OK, I believe you... don't bring him in my house. I made a point of printing up his FDLE file (see link at top of this page) and posting around the house. If you don't tell me the truth, I'll imagine that worst.
Jeff seems to always have the next big 'get rich quick' scheme. While he's waiting on his ship to come in, Karen supports him and the baby but now, money doesn't go as far with a third mouth to feed. Solution; don't feed it. Jeff and Karen would order pizza, eat it, and feed Jeremy the crusts. Teresa and her parents fed that boy. Karen never had money for food so Teresa and Lada would go shopping to feed them. Of course, Teresa and Lada meant well but they could never see past the hungry little boy. I did. I saw that Karen had her hair and nails done EVERY week. I saw that they threw parties with bushels of oysters and kegs of beer. I saw that they kept 5 dogs (3 of them big-assed rotweilers) fed and that Karen and Jeff ate well themselves. I saw that they both smoked and were never out of beer or cigarettes. I saw the scheme. Teresa and Lada saw it, they just wouldn't believe it.
Jeremy is skittish and scared around men. Jeff has taken over the role of a father figure and he is very harsh. He shaves the boy's head and punishes him when he says "yeah" instead of "yes sir". There's no real reason to believe anything 'wrong' is happening other than Jeff is just an asshole as a father. Eventually, reality kicks in and Karen announces that "for the good of the baby", maybe someone should "temporarily" take Jeremy in. I agreed for a VERY short term to take care of Jeremy. I finally had to put my foot down for the good of MY family. I told Teresa that if we took Jeremy any longer than 3 months, we keep him, adopt him and Karen is completely out of the picture, never to speak to us or be seen again. She agreed that I made sense but couldn't agree to it. It was hard for me to stand up against Teresa but I had to do it for her own good. She fought me but I think she was glad at the same time. She knew it was a bad situation only destined to get worse. During those 3 months, Jeremy turned around 180. He was smiling a lot more and I was sad to see him go but I knew that if we kept him, Karen could play us for the rest of her life. Jeremy went to live with Uncle Jerry (Teresa and Karen's older brother) in Atlanta. Karen doesn't seem to miss him much at all; only during holidays and even then only when someone is watching.
Jeremy born on 3/22/97.
All attention focused on Karen - she has no intention of taking Liz back from Mom and dad but she's going to do so much better with Jeremy. Mom and Teresa go back to their routine - buying food/clothing/diapers for Jeremy - caring for him while Karen parties the usual. Never any food in the house but always a fridge full of beer. Karen is keeping him though, allowing Jeremy to be in a room full of pot & drinking, partying every night. Karen doesn't pay her mortgage - Dad & mom pay for several months at a time -unfortunately the time comes when Karen forgets to tell them the house payment isn't made - House is forclosed. Karen moves in with Jerry's pot smoking, drug dealing sister with Jeremy. Jeremy is filthy all the time and not eating properly. Karen orders pizza -eats pizza and gives Jeremy the crusts to eat, same with chicken - Jeremy chews on the bones - he doesn't get the real thing.
Not working out. Karen doesn't like that she's living somewhere that the police keep coming out and searching the house - of course living out there causes Mom & Dad not to show any attention to Karen. Jeremy is being rotated between houses. He stays with Chris & Teresa then goes to mom & dad before going back to Karen.
Karen leaves Jerry and dates Jeff Wilson (convicted Child molester)- moves in with Mom and dad, Jerry now out of the picture.
Karen seriously dates Jeff. They move in together. Jeff quit his job - Karen is now taking care of him & Jeremy on her own. Mom and Teresa constantly buying food for house and Jeremy. Karen doesn't know what to do, she can't care for Jeremy. Mom & Teresa puts him in day care with the girls. Before dropping him off at the day care, Teresa bathes Jeremy and puts clean clothes on him - he's usually wearing dirty clothes and smelling awful when they pick him up for school We find out Jeremy is sleeping on a futon mattress with the 2 dogs in a closet because the bed Mom and Teresa bought him was destroyed by the previous dogs Karen had and so pee stained Jeremy couldn't sleep on it. He sleeps on the floor next to Karen's bed with the dogs. When they party, Jeremy is stuck locked in the closet so he doesn't disturb them. Jeff just loves his new son! Mom & Teresa buy clothes and more clothes and it's just not enough. Teresa & Chris buy a new van, it's suggested that instead of trading in their old car, give it to Karen & Jeff and they will pay the payments. They took off and moved to Georgia with the car and Jeremy. Didn't tell anyone where they were. Chris & Teresa got in hot water with loans and debts. After a lot of searching we found the car (in one piece but totaled) and took it back from them. Teresa is losing her mind!
1998-1999
Teresa is funneling money to Karen and Jeff left and right. Every time is the last time, she swears. But then Karen comes up with a sob story about utility bills or medical problems and Teresa hands her $100 again and again. Teresa and I buy a mini-van. Instead of trading in our station wagon, we use our tax refund as a down payment. Teresa (again, against my will) lets Karen and Jeff have the wagon and make payments to us because their credit is so bad they can't get a car. Anyone see where this is going? Anyone...? So, after a few months, Teresa is making payments on both vehicles and trying not to tell me because she knows I'll blow up. Eventually, she tells me and we try to get the car back. Jeff and Karen are avoiding us. Duh, you think? We hear they are in Georgia. Next we hear they are living off of Lane Ave. Teresa and I drive up and down Lane Ave. at 8pm. The cops must have thought we were looking to buy some crack. We find the car and I pull in behind it to block it off. They're not home but the landlord called Jeff's parents. When they arrive (3 hours later), I'm already beyond angry and they want to start a fight with me. They can't believe that family would act this way, repossessing a car in the middle of the night from these poor kids. "Not very Christian of you", he tells me. It took everything I had and more wisdom than I did have to keep silent. There were some heated words and I got out of there with the car only after Jerry arrived with reinforcements (.38cal reinforcements). The car was totaled. Any description I could give would not do it justice. It was gone. In retrospect, I'm surprised it drove home. That's the only reason they didn't have it with them was because Jeff knows enough about cars to realize you'd have to be insane to drive a car in that condition. I heard all the various noises while driving it but at the time I didn't know what they meant. Now I know that they meant; cracked engine block, no oil, damaged transmission, metal/metal brakes, 'exposed steel radial on the road' tires, firing on 4 of 6 plugs and the smell inside was horrifying! Unable to sell it and ignorant of cars enough to think I could fix it, the car sat there and got worse. Eventually, we did a voluntary repossession. Karen and Jeff drove us to financial ruin. 5 years later we're only now coming out of it and we'll be suffering for another 7. Our finances have always been 'day to day' and that's our own fault, especially mine for not shouting NO!!!!! It's not entirely their fault but they are most definitely the straw that broke the camel's back. However, it is my fault for loading that camel up so heavily in the first place. We kept getting by with little to no trouble until we reached out to help Karen. Instead of helping Karen up, she dragged us down.
The next few years are spent watching them wander from job to job, house to house. They get established and quit. I don't get it. Some form of modern day nomad, moving on before all the resources are used up? Elizabeth is reaching that age where she wants and needs contact with her Mom. All she gets is the obligatory holiday phone calls. When Karen does show up, it's always, "Mommy misses you, mommy loves you." She's become a joke. Buying an occasional gift at the Dollar Store does not make you mommy. Still, like Teresa, Jerry and Lada, Liz refuses to give up on Karen.
Karen decides she wants Chris & Teresa to adopt Jeremy - Chris says no because Jeremy will suffer as much as Elizabeth is suffering and Teresa is about to lose her mind "literally" because of the stress Karen is causing her. Karen talks to big brother Jerry and asks him to take Jeremy. We take Jeremy to live with Jerry and Scott. After a year of living with them, Karen signs over rights - after Jerry S fights for custody and loses. Jerry & Scott adopt Jeremy. Karen pissed that Jerry refuses to allow her to see Jeremy. Jeff can't forgive Karen for giving up Jeremy - even though Jeremy isn't his son, and he never cared for Jeremy since the beginning of this relationship.
2001?
Karen's second child had been formally adopted by her brother Jerry in Atlanta. Karen is completely out of the picture now as far as they are concerned. I agree. That was my only stipulation if we had taken him in. I just didn't have the patience to wait 4 years. Karen only mentions it when she has a platform. Even then, it's more about her hatred for her brother than her missing her son.
Things are quiet for a while. Karen & Jeff move from place to place but the kids are safe so who cares. Jeff makes noises about trying to take Liz from Mom & Dad - he feels Liz should be with her mother but Karen is smart - she knows that will never happen without MAJOR consequences.
I was stupid enough to say yes to Teresa when she asked if Karen and Jeff could move in to get back on their feet. I don't know why it's so hard for me to say no to her. I would want her to take in my siblings if they asked but Karen is a different story. If my brother or sister screwed us over so many times I'd refuse to take them in too.
Their room smelled like pee and they rarely showered. It was an ugly 6 months. Finally Karen came home and said that Jeff was moving out. He got his girlfriend pregnant and he is going to live with her for the pregnancy and then come back to Karen. 2 days later she said that he had changed his mind and would be coming back tonight. I guess his girlfriend must have thrown him out? At that point I had had enough. I told her that she was welcome to stay but Jeff was not to come into the house again. I had Becca and Elizabeth to think about. I didn't want them to see that it was OK for a man to treat a woman this way. Jeff slept in his car in front of my house for 2 nights until I finally told Karen that he'd have to park somewhere else. I didn't want her sneaking him into the house after I left for work. A few days later Karen moved out.
I try not to hold a grudge and apparently they didn't have a problem with me because a few months later we're all talking and visiting as if nothing had happened. Fine. I don't really care how they interact, I just didn't want it in my house anymore.
Present time - Karen and Jeff lose another residence. They ask to move in with us temporarily to get back on their feet. It's been awhile, lets give them a chance. They move in with their 2 dogs. Jeff promptly quits his job. At the time, Teresa was baby-sitting at home so it was not good that Jeff stayed home a lot. Dogs totally destroyed the bedroom we gave them. Pee and poop all over the floor left for days. The smell was awful. Jeff finally found a job as a bouncer and decided to bounce with one of the strippers. Karen found out and instead of acting maturely she voiced her unhappiness in the presence of the two girls now 7 and 9. She informs them and anyone who will listen that Jeff is screwing around with a whore and she's kicking him out. She kicks him out but then turns around and lets him come back. We kept quiet about this, didn't want to get involved until..... Teresa comes home from picking up the girls, finds Karen on the couch crying. Instead of waiting for the appropriate time she blurts out that Jeff's whore was pregnant and that Jeff was going back to her. Now, the funny thing is ...is that Jeff is unable to produce children due to a childhood illness or something. He's decided he's going to leave Karen for 9 months until the baby is born. He doesn't trust that this girl will take care of herself and if the baby is actually his - yes he did sleep with her - then he wants to be sure that his child is cared for. He's always wanted a child and since Karen gave hers up, he wants this one. SO he was leaving to care for this girl until the baby is born, then he will come back to Karen. Karen has agreed to this. WHAT??? Karen agreed because Jeff promised to come back to her after the baby is born. Teresa told Karen that Jeff was no longer allowed over and if Karen was smart she'd get rid of him now. 8 hours later Jeff shows up and says he can't live without Karen, he was going to stay with Karen and transport back and forth daily to check on this girl. Karen agreed. Chris & Teresa said NO WAY - we have impressionable children here and we did not want them thinking this was an acceptable way to treat a woman and it was not a way we wanted them to think women should act. Jeff not allowed in the house, he slept outside on the street for days until Chris told him to move it. They moved into a hotel for a few days, borrowed money from dad and slowly found a way to get an apartment and job. They ended up living in an apartment behind Cecil's Bar.
Mid November 2004
Karen has been fired from her job at the bar. Official story is that the other girls were jealous that Karen makes more in tips than they do. Rumors are that she was stealing from the register and providing 'special services' on the side. Rumors are always worse than the truth but it has to be something other than co-worker jealousy.
Karen is becoming more and more depressed. Karen loses her job, Jeff says to get her act together or he was leaving her. He can't forgive her for giving up his only son (duh - not even his kid). He takes up a girlfriend flaunting it in her face. If she won't show him attention, he'll get the attention elsewhere. She gets more and more depressed and quits eating losing about 50 pounds in one month.
Late November 2004
Teresa is worried about Karen. She isn't eating anything and looks like crap. They took her to lunch and she ate like she was starving. Teresa bought her a kitchen full of groceries and I think it was a waste. Karen won't get any of that but Jeff will eat like a king.
12-6-4
Teresa received a phone call from Karen. She is asking Teresa to commit her. I couldn't make this stuff up. Karen and Jeff have sat down and discussed it and they think it would be best if we all had Karen "Baker Acted". Oh boy, just in time for the holidays too!
What kind of man would want his wife in an institution over Christmas? A man with a girlfriend would be the correct answer. What kind of woman would WANT to be in an institution at all? I don't know the answer to that one.
Saturday, 12-11-4
Jerry calls me and asks if we have heard from Karen recently. He has been getting messages on his answering machine. Collect calls from a correctional institute, no name. No one has heard from Karen or Jeff in a while. Jerry drives over to their last known address. They are there. Karen looks like warmed over death but Jeff is as fit as can be. Either way, they are both out of jail. I'm starting to think that committing Karen isn't such a bad idea after all. At least she'd get a medical exam.
Sorry I haven't been keeping this up, a lot has happened in the last couple of weeks and this is the very reason I started this page in the first place.
OK, a week or so before Christmas, just after the "has anyone seen Karen" ordeal.
Jerry offers to let Karen come and live with him and Lizzy if Karen is serious about getting her life together, if she's going to get straight and leave Jeff. Of course she says all the right things to get a free place to stay. Jerry soon realizes that he may have made an error here.
I needed to borrow Jerry's extension ladder so I loaded up a whole bunch of stuff (boxes of canning jars, pressure cooker) in the back of my truck that needed to go into his shed until the next cargo load to PA is made. When I pulled up there was a truck in the driveway. He was parked at an angle so I couldn't get in the driveway. I had to park on the curb on busy Cesery Blvd. Karen was hanging into the passenger window like we were all in High School again. I went inside to say hello and Jerry was visibly agitated by Karen's visitors but he was trying not to show it. I started hauling all the boxes around to the shed and had to walk around this asshole's truck every time. He didn't move, he didn't even nod at me when I said hello. It took me 6 or 7 trips to unload the truck and by the time I was done, Karen had gone inside and this guy was just sitting there, in my way and ignoring me. I had to really stop and think about things because at the time I was thinking it would be a real treat for me to pull this dickhead out of his truck, stomp on his neck until he turned purple all the while bitch-slapping him in the face. In the end, reason won out but it was close.
She gets angry one night and walks out, walking to dad's house. Teresa finds out that dad breaks and invites her to move in on the condition that she finally divorces Jeff erasing him from her mind. She's to no longer see him or talk to him. She agrees. She moves in and goes back to being a teenager. She's partying every night, seeing Jeff every night (but not seeing him) WHATEVER.
12-23-4 - Jerry's Birthday
Teresa and I take Jerry and Liz out for his birthday. When we are at the house Teresa invites Karen and she plays the, "No, that's OK, I'll just stay here, I don't have any money..." game. I would have said, "OK" and walked out but Teresa insisted (Like a GOOD person would do) and she came with us. This was the longest period of time I've spent around Karen in a long while. She seemed as happy as could be and without a care in the world. I had trouble seeing the dangerously depressed girl Teresa was telling me about. Teresa says that Karen has been at Jerry's house just long enough to yell at Liz and then leave to go party with her friends...at the same bar Jeff hangs out in with his new girlfriend. I don't get it.
12-24-4 - Christmas Eve
Karen calls Teresa and asks if she can borrow $10, she needs to buy a jacket. It was cold out but Teresa had already bought Karen a new jacket for Christmas. She tells Karen to wait until tomorrow. Karen insists that she really needs the money tonight because it's so cold out. Teresa went over to the house and gave Karen her present early thinking it was a pretty cool coincidence. Karen barely uttered a thank you. As Teresa was leaving, Karen asked for the $10 again. "But you have a jacket now." "I know, but I need to go buy stuff." Teresa left without giving her the money (I think).
12-25-4 - Christmas
Tradition is we all go over to Jerry's in the morning and have breakfast while doing the Christmas thing. After we left, so did Karen. I guess hanging out at a bar during the day with drunks and your husband's girlfriend is much more appealing than spending Christmas morning with your daughter. Teresa says that Karen's almost never at the house anymore. She's using Jerry as a safety net. I guess if her friends catch her stealing or just get fed up with her she'll have a place to go? I don't know...
12-31-4/1-1-5 - New Years
At some point in the night Karen calls Teresa to say "Happy New Year" and "Oh yeah, can I borrow $20?" Teresa blows her off and Karen tells her to call Jerry to tell him to let Karen borrow the money from him.
The next morning Karen calls asking if she can get that $20 now. Teresa actually said no. Later on, Teresa is over Jerry's and he says that Karen told him that Teresa said she could get the money from him and Teresa would pay him back.
1-3-5
As I get home from work, Teresa is on the phone with Karen. Same old crap, All I hear is Teresa saying the same things over and over again trying to pacify her sister. If Teresa would just tell her the truth without making it easy on her, she MIGHT just see the truth. Teresa says whatever it takes to keep the peace so Karen will never get her shit together if she keeps coming back to Teresa for guidance.
The latest is that it's our fault that Karen and Jeff are splitting up because Teresa kicked Jeff out of the house last year. Um...OK. Did I miss something? Karen has been living with a 21 year-old girl now but still maintains that open door at Jerry's.
She hasn't spent one night at dad's house. Ignores Liz. She becomes her old self. Laughing and joking, partying having a good old time. Jeff sees how she's become and decides he wants her back - plays mind games with her. She says she's not buying it. She wants a divorce but he's not giving it to her, refuses to sign the papers. She's hanging with a 21 year old girl how is counseling her on how to be happy and go without Jeff. What should she do?
Updated 3-1-5
Karen has decided once and for all to divorce Jeff. She's gone from a size 14 to a size 5 in 4 months. She looks HOT (so she says) All the guys lust after her (so she says) No one can believe she was so FAT before, my GOD to be in a size 14! How insane!!! Her words. To me she looks like a worn out junkie that's been around the block MANY times - but who am I?
She is living with a friends mother now (I think) dating but not dating (cause she's still married) a 23 year old red neck that makes her buy the beer and the food while he takes her out in his big ole' bubba truck. The girl (Kimberly) that is currently with Karen's soon to be ex husband is now trying to "get" the 23 year old Karen is currently with because Kimberly is "obsessed" with Karen. She wants everything and everyone one Karen has. WHATEVER! Karen lost her job at the Cafe and is now working at her old job where she quit because she wanted to be home with Jeff at night because she was afraid he was cheating on her. She doesn't call except for money She called a few weeks ago to see if I'd loan her money so she could play in her dart tournament. When I told her NO! She called dad and asked dad if she could have Liz for a few hours. When Dad said he didn't care, she asked if she could have $20 for taking Liz out. Then told Liz to bring her own money if she wanted to eat and/or do anything. OH MY GOD SHE MUST BE DESTROYED!
Last weekend was the carnival at my school (where I work) We'd made plans months ago for Liz to spend the night with me Friday night and then go to the carnival on Saturday. Karen called me Thursday and asked me "what's this thing about a carnival tomorrow?" I replied that the carnival was Saturday at my work. She then informs me that Liz was NOT going with me, that she was taking Liz to a birthday party of one of her red neck friend's kids. I then politely informed her that unless she had made prior plans with our father that I was not aware of, Liz was spending the night with me and going to my carnival. She argues a few minutes explaining that this child was just dying to meet Liz and that she didn't have many friends and Liz NEEDED to be there for this child. I informed Karen that she'd have to take this up with Dad because as far as I was concerned, Liz was coming with me... She then replies," Well, I guess it's alright if you take Liz with you. That'll be fine I guess." I held the phone out in front of me and just stared at it in amazement. My hearing must have been bad. She actually thinks I need her permission!! That she has the last word on Elizabeth? My blood pressure went through the roof but stupid as I am... I just said OH OKAY! There was so much I wanted to say but of course.... I never say it.
We don't hear from Karen for a few more days until she needed money for her dart tournament. Liz went to the doctor on Wednesday, found out she had strep throat. Karen called 2 times this week to borrow money and to see if she could come over and pick up some stuff (without dad being at the house mind you) for a garage sale her friends were having. She never asked how Liz was, never found out she was sick.
Updated 3-3-5
Karen called me today, Jeff is having more and more seizures every day. The other day he had 11 seizures in 8 hours... Wouldn't his brain explode? Can that actually happen without some major brain damage?
Today she called me and told me she spent the evening at the hospital with Jeff because he had a seizure that lasted 52 minutes last night. After the seizure was done, she took him to the hospital. Wouldn't you think to call an ambulance after just a few minutes? Anyway - Jeff's girlfriend was out partying last night and didn't want to deal with Jeff and his drama even though she knows he's been having these seizures every day. This is all Karen's story - who knows if it's true or not. I've never witnessed a seizure in all the years I've know him and all the times he's lived in my home.
So poor little Karen had to take the responsibility to get Jeff a doctor because she couldn't deal with his "death" on her hands. She is taking his prescription to the pharmacy after she picks up her check today (looks like she's paying for it cause Jeff doesn't have any money) she's then going to take it to Kimberly and make sure Kimberly gives it to Jeff every day so that his death is not on Karen's hands. (said a 2nd time to me) HUH? Anyway, I reminded her that he was a cheating SOB that almost caused her to be committed because he kept playing mind games with her, put her down because of her weight and attitude and was just a selfish pig BUT Karen feels that if Kimberly can't take care of Jeff she's just going to have to do it so his death is not on her hands (3rd time)... She's still getting that divorce though! WHATEVER!
Updated 4-14-5
Karen is back with Jeff. Oh wait... no she's not.. Story goes as follows. While everyone was at festival, Dad and Liz were in Pennsylvania. This was the first time in my 33 years that I have been completely alone. No parents, no husband, no children...completely alone. The Wednesday of festival I dropped Becca off with Chris at the site, driving home I felt so alone, didn't know what to do with myself. My husband and daughter were gone, dad and Liz gone, my best friend in the whole world was avoiding me (she owed me money); my other friends of course were with Chris & Becca. I was lonely and I guess a little desperate.
I called Karen and invited her to dinner, my treat. Definitely desperate. I picked her up and we went to dinner. I told her I needed to talk, I felt this pressure in my chest and I had so much emotion bottled up I needed to talk to someone...anyone. I needed someone to listen to me, pour out all my frustrations. I should have known better. She cut me off in the middle of that speech and tells me her tale.
Jeff and Karen were back together (previous weeks that I did not speak with her) the girlfriend Kimberly was furious, how dare they do this to her. Jeff couldn't stop thinking of Karen, she looked so hot, he had to have her back. Well, Kimberly got mad and she got even. Something all of us wanted to do but never had the guts to do. She called the cops and told them she knew where a registered sex offender lived and since he never updated his file - absconded from registration - she would tell the cops where Jeff lived, where he hung out and where he was this very minute.
Karen, Jeff and a bunch of their friends were up at Cecil's having a few beers and playing pool. Two police officers walk in, walk up to Jeff and ask for ID. Out goes Jeff in handcuffs (oh I just love this). Karen causes a scene, confronts Kimberly and of course Kimberly is totally shocked, "who would do such a thing?" Karen and her posse head down to the police station to see what's up. Jeff is charged; Jeff gets his photo updated and address. He needs $1000 to get out of jail. Well, I assumed that Karen called Jeff's parents to get the cash. DUMB! WRONG! Karen goes back to the bar, talks to the owners' son and borrows $1000 to get Jeff out of jail. DUMB! STUPID IDIOT! She gets Jeff out the next day and that very day, oh my goodness.... Jeff goes back with Kimberly! Says he's not interested in being with Karen, he just can't go back to that, he's happy with Kimberly. BYE BYE!
She's furious! She's trying to find all these guys she's messed with to go over and beat Jeff up, trying to find girls to beat up this Kimberly girl. What a mess. Long story short, Jeff used her again and she's blaming the girl. I have not spoken to her since (since I bought her dinner & beer) No phone call, nothing. I heard she finally got a waitressing job but I'm not sure exactly where. When will I learn?
Written 5-1-5
Posted 5-9-5 (sorry)
Karen called me last night. I almost didn't answer the phone because I didn't recognize the phone number. She has moved out of Terry's house and is now living with "Bam's" mom. Bam's mom is the one who rented out her mini trailer for Jeff to live in. Jeff was kicked out of the mini trailer and is now living with his girlfriend Kim. Bam is Jeff's best friend. Karen no longer works at Whistle Junction, she is getting a job at Publix working in the office. She has to go in for a drug test today. I asked if she was going to pass the test and she just laughed and said Jeff had asked her the same thing. She told Jeff that yes she would pass it. She went to a party this weekend where everyone was "smoking weed" but she didn't touch it. WHATEVER!
Karen then asked me if I was studying the religion Wicca or Paganism. When I asked her why she would ask she explained that there was a cook at the bar she hangs out with that started discussing religion with her this weekend. When he told her he was Pagan, she told him she thought I was too but wasn't sure. How does she know when I don't even know myself? He asked what I was studying and what my beliefs were and what Karen thought of me and my beliefs. He then asked her if I allowed my daughter to study the same path or was she "sheltered" from this. Was I planning on forcing my beliefs on my daughter or allowing her to make her own decision. Karen told him she wasn't sure what my thoughts/beliefs were and she was sure my daughter would make her own decisions when the time came. He then informed Karen that he was an Ordained 2nd level High Priest of the Celtic (pronounced SELL TIC according to him) path and that if I had any questions or would like to discuss his thoughts or beliefs I could call him and he'd be glad to speak with me. He then told Karen that she needed to stop avoiding her sister (that's me!) and get closer to her, get to know her as an adult and rebuild the bond we had as children. GEE THANKS MAN! I'm trying to get away from her and he's trying to push her towards me!
Can anyone tell me what an Ordained 2nd level High Priest of the SELLTIC path is? Chris just laughs when I ask....Am I gullible or is this guy for real?
CMM - Just to clarify this for her, the guy sounded like a poser. Someone who has read all the "Bigger Breasts Through Witchcraft" books enough to know all the right words but doesn't know how to use them or what they mean. From everything Karen told Teresa, this guy sounded like he was fishing for information. Especially since he was asking about Becca. I told her to stay away from him, something is wrong with this picture. If this guy is of the path he claims to be, he wouldn't be saying the things he was saying, the way he was saying them. It looks innocent enough the way she typed it out but there was something darker that just doesn't translate into words.
Updated 5-11-5
I spoke to Karen last night; she wanted to let me know that she had a wonderful Mother's Day weekend. She went out on a boat with a few guys she's met and had a blast. She also wanted to let me know that she saw Elizabeth on Saturday. Elizabeth was sweet enough to track her down and drop off some flowers and a card for her for Mother's day. Of course she was upset that we didn't hang out Sunday for a Mother's day lunch or dinner. I didn't tell her that dad bought me dinner Friday night, Elizabeth took me out for Margarita's on Saturday night and Chris & Becca took wonderful care of me on Sunday (and Friday & Saturday). That would just be rude! Of course, she never asked me anyway.
Jeff is still living with his girlfriend. He re-registered with the police showing his new address. He goes to court on May 19th. He's looking at 16 months in jail for not registering. My guess is he'll be let go (again) his luck is just amazing. He'll be let go with a warning. I can just see it. Karen is trying to get her divorce papers all ready so she can take them to court on the day he's sentenced, that way he can sign them as he's being led away in handcuffs (yeah right). She says she's borrowing the money from dad for the filing of the papers. She swears she'll pay him back in 2 weeks. WHATEVER.
Karen is back to hanging out with the guys she knew "pre-Elizabeth". Dad swears Steve isn't the real father of Liz, he thinks it's Lance (whom Karen is seeing right now) but I think it's John (whom Karen is seeing now) It's amazing how she keeps digging up the dirt bags again and again. She'll never change.
She wanted to let me know how good she looks again. She's down to 110 pounds. She looks hot and she's got 5 guys calling her right now. It can't be the tattoo on her forehead that says "I'm EASY- Call me!" Did I say that out loud? Must be cause I'm jealous!
CMM - I can't believe these two actually doubt the paternity of Elizabeth. I've seen the pictures this guy "Steve" has of his other (non-Karen) kids, you'd be amazed at the similarities between Lizzy and his other daughter. At a glance I thought it was a picture of Lizzy.
Thursday, 6-9-5
Not much of an update but information none the less.
Karen is back with Jeff. I don't know the specifics. I don't ask anymore. I just know that Teresa is amazed that her sister will never learn. As we finish packing Jerry's house to move to Pennsylvania, Karen keeps making comments about wanting to move up there too. Of course she wants to. She sees her safety net being removed.
All this talk is scaring Teresa though. We are moving up there soon but not if Karen is living up there.
Friday, 6-24-5
I don't know the full details yet but Teresa called me from Pennsylvania last night to give me the latest update. I'll put more up here when the rest of the story unfolds. Jeff was sentenced to 16 months yesterday. They say he'll serve about a full year either in Raiford or Baker County.
The plea bargain offered 7 months, serving only 3 (? I don't keep track of these things. I try to ignore them...) and he refused it saying he would take his chances because he was so innocent. This was only a few days before all of the high-profile cases in the media brought sex-offenders into the spotlight.
Does it make me a bad person that I can't help laughing over this? Yes. Yes it does, but I don't care. His arrogance cost him 9 months more than he had to do. He can BS us and he can even BS himself into believing that he's innocent. But the BS doesn't seem to work on the system.
BTW, have you clicked the link recently to see the new picture of Jeff? He doesn't appear to be too happy. "State Incarceration" can do that to a man I guess.
Tuesday, 6-28-5
I got a call from Karen. Jeff went to court on the 23rd in reference to his failure to register his new address. He got 16 months in jail. He was told he'd probably only have to serve 85% of the sentence. He is spending this week in Duval, the next 2 weeks in Baker County and after that he will be sent to either Raiford or Dinsmore to complete his sentence. Karen says he wanted us to know he loves us and will miss us. He understands that we hate him and understands but just wanted us to know his feelings. WHATEVER. I told Karen I didn't hate Jeff, I just didn't approve of him or his behavior, the same as I don't approve of her or her behavior. She wasn't too happy about my comments but since I was on vacation, I really didn't care. I voiced the appropriate sympathy and concern all the while dancing the jig as I was driving up the mountain in PA.
Karen asked if I would be available to come and get her sometime soon so that she could hang out with me and get drunk and tell me all her problems. She just couldn't deal with this right now and she didn't know what she was going to do. I told her sure, I'd be available to hang out but I wasn't buying the alcohol. Of course, I reminded her of the day back in March where I needed someone's shoulder to cry on, lowered myself to ask for her shoulder - she showed me great concern - until we hit the restaurant -she ate her free meal and never heard a word of my complaints that night because she was too busy bitching about Jeff and his whore of a girlfriend. But not to worry, I won't hold that against her, I'll listen to her problems. I'll help anyway I can. (WHAT A WIMP I AM)
She does not have a job right now, she asked me if I could drive her around on my next day off and help her find a job. Of course I said sure, my next day off was Tuesday. She called me Saturday and asked me if I'd like to take her and the girls to the beach on Tuesday. I asked if she still wanted to drive around and look for a job - she said NO, she had to baby-sit the kids where she lives so there was no way to look for a job. She thought we'd all like to hang out at the beach that day. #1 - I hate the beach and she knows it. #2 - I don't feel like being her taxi driver, #3 - the only reason she wants to hang out with me is because I have a car and she wants the beach. Guess we're putting off getting a job for awhile. Luckily I caught a cold - I feel to ill to take her to the beach tomorrow.
I was asked to print the picture of Jeff for her off the website. Jeff's parents have not seen it yet. It looks like they are trying to get Jeff a better lawyer to get him out of jail. I can't wait to see what happens next.
No mention of moving up to PA with Dad yet I'm still waiting. She's trying to get up the nerve to ask Dad for $400 to get her drivers license and insurance on her Jeep. Guess she gave up on the $300 to get the divorce.
Wednesday, 7-6-5
Karen called me Thursday night to find out what I was doing this 4th of July. She wanted to know if I wanted to baby sit a 2 month old baby with her. Apparently a friend of hers wanted to go out and party on the 4th and needed someone to watch her daughter. Since Karen's husband is in jail and she didn't have plans, Karen offered to baby sit. Unfortunately, Karen has no experience with babies so she thought I'd like to watch the little girl for her so she could get paid. After telling her that I already had plans for the 4th (like every previous year) I politely asked her where her brain was. Why would I want to watch someone's child (that I don't know) in the first place and in the 2nd place why would I watch them and give her the money? DUH! So she gave up on that and decided she would do it herself.
Karen calls me on Saturday as I am heading down to my in-laws. She asked where I was and if I could do her a favor. She's crying in my ear. She informs me that she was at the flea market and someone broke into Bam's car and stole her purse! Her purse had her check card, Social security card, State ID and Jeff's (who is in jail) ID and Social Security card. Oh - and his watch. She tells me to call the bank and close out her checking account. I'm to tell the bank her purse was stolen and that her check card was in her purse. I calmly explain to her that #1 - I'm on my way out of town, #2 the bank will not allow someone that is not on the account to close an account even if the owner of that account says it's ok, and #3 - she's old enough and capable enough to do it herself. She whines and tells me she just can't handle it right now, that she wouldn't know what to say or what to do. She says she knows I have all her information and it would be easy for me to do it quicker than her. WHATEVER. I told her to call the police, call her bank and file for a new social security card. That's the most I could do. She ended up calling dad and complaining that I wouldn't help her. Fortunately, dad told her the same thing - she was on her own with this, we couldn't help. Dad then says this is probably a ploy to get money, which I agree. He said he'd handle it when he got home. (MONDAY)
Chris was worried because Karen knew we were all out of town. He was worried that maybe she or her friends would try to break into the house. Three hours later, the alarm on the gate at the house goes off. I told security not to cancel the dispatch. Dad headed home after he heard this. Last year when Karen lived with us, we had the sliding door on auto bypass so they could go out back and smoke while the alarm was armed. After they moved out, we removed the auto-bypass. Luckily no other alarm went off, looks like the girls forgot to secure the gate. When we got home Chris noticed tire marks in our yard. Looks like a car was driven up to our front door. Hmmmm, makes you wonder.
Karen called dad yesterday. She went to visit Jeff. She was pretty proud of herself. Jeff's ex-girlfriend showed up at the same time she showed up. The security guard allowed Karen in (because she's the spouse) and refused to allow Kim to go in and visit Jeff. She's tickled she got one over Kim. HELLO! ARE YOU STUPID? She's insane! Jeff's going to change, Jeff's going to love her even more when he gets out. So she says - Yeah, he's going to change - change girlfriends that is because I'm sure Kim isn't stupid enough to wait around 16 months for the idiot.
OH SHE DRIVES ME NUTS!
Thursday, 7-7-5
Karen called, asked if I had heard from our brother lately. She saw on the news all the destruction the tornados from TS Cindy caused in Atlanta and she wanted to be sure Jerry was okay. She hasn't seen Jerry or spoke to him in over 3 years. I assured her Jerry was alright, that his house and property received no damage from the storm. She then tells me to let him know she's thinking of him and that she loves him.
OKAY - What does she want? She hates Jerry and he hates her! Something is up.
She never even mentioned her son. I realize that legally Jeremy is no longer her son but you would figure she'd at least say something like - tell him hello? How's he doing? No mention at all. Floored me.
Karen went to ACS to look for an office job yesterday. She figures since dad is no longer in the field, she can go to the competition and get a job. She seems to think she'll get the job. I don't know what they are thinking. You would figure people that have known her for 20 years would be smart NOT to hire her. I guess we'll find out soon. Gosh, do I sound harsh? She needs to get a job. Jeff needs money for cigarettes and deodorant. Jeff's parents said they would purchase these items and take them to him. He's offended that they would do that and not give him the money. So Karen promised to get him money. OH MY GOD! I can't believe someone could be so STUPID. Why??
Monday, 7-11-5
Posted Thursday, 7-14-5
Replaced Friday, 7-15-5 - OK, see? All she needed to do was vent. I still think she's headed to the asylum...
CMM - I wasn't going to post this. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that every word of it is painful but true. I still say she is looking for friends in the wrong people. I try to point her toward those that wouldn't hurt her but there are never any guarantees in that. I've been bitten by those I felt safe with and I know how she feels. In empathy with that, I will not censor her emotions.
I trust that she will learn and heal and I hope that she will be back but for now, here is Teresa's last Karen Update...
I have asked Chris to remove my previous post and replace it with this one. Where I still believe everything I said, I should have shown a little more finesse in expressing my feelings without being so, shall we say, graphic. I meant no harm in my ranting, I was just attempting to rid myself of this vile rage building inside of me due to my lack of courage and inability to stand up for myself when the necessity arises. My breakdown is pending and I wanted to retract my previous post in an attempt to relieve myself of some of the guilt pulling me down due to my raging rant.
I still believe I have no right to criticize my sister and her actions as I, in my own way, am following her in the same wrong decisions. I chose the wrong people to be my friends and am only harming myself with my actions. My sister chose the wrong men (in whose opinion? MINE?) and is only harming herself (in whose opinion? MINE?) Who am I to tell her she is wrong? Who am I to say she is stupid in what she is doing? There is only one difference between my sister and I. Karen is happy. Karen is not about to be committed to the nearest asylum because of a mental breakdown. Of course, we all feel she should be committed anyway, but who are we do decide? She's happy living the way she is, she's happy with herself and she is content with her life. Karen has no problem telling someone to their face, " hey- kiss off! You've hurt my feelings!" She has no problem standing up for herself when necessary and she gets up when someone knocks her down and tries to kick her into submission. I've been told many times to find new friends, stand up for yourself and stop being the one that can't just say "FUCK OFF" when someone hurts me (even unintentionally). I'm hurting only myself and those around me by holding this rage in and letting it escape at the most inappropriate times.
I thought writing the post would ease my frustrations but it only increased my guilt and anger and self criminations. I have decided to continue writing my updates on my sister because sometimes it's just so funny to hear her escapades, but I've decided that for awhile, I'll keep my opinions and comments to myself. I will live my life vicariously through Karen while I continue to work on my own self esteem, self discipline and self worth.
Monday, 8-1-5
Posted Monday, 8-15-5
I can't resist, I just have to do another Karen update. Her life is so interesting I just can't help myself.
Anyone have a room to rent? I have a sister looking for a new sucker... I mean friend. It looks like her days are numbered at her current residence. From what I've heard, she's paying this woman $150 a month to live there. How she's paying I have no idea (don't wanna know) because she doesn't have a job but... Anyway, since Jeff has been in jail he's decided he has to talk to Karen constantly, he can't go an hour without hearing her voice. This woman's phone bill went from $50 a month to $85.00 in a month. Jeff had only been in jail 5 days. He was calling 4 to 5 times a day at $2.50 per call. I can't wait to see this month's bill. He's been in for 30 days. Anyway, the lady told Karen she wanted her $150 plus the additional $35. She then told Karen that she wanted her to place $2.50 on the table EVERY time Jeff called so that she could be sure she'd have the money to pay the next bill. HOW DARE SHE! That is so rude. It's not like Karen's going to run off and leave the bill. (With Steve, she owed a good friend of mine $400 in phone bills, with Jerry - she still owes dad $250 and I believe I got screwed with Ricky - I won't say how much cause Chris is posting this) So she tells me she's looking for a job and looking for a new place because she can't stand this woman questioning her honor. She'll pay the bill when the bill comes in and not any sooner.
Sayge snapped at her the other day, actually tried to bite her. Sayge is Pagan's sister. They are 5 years old and the sweetest dogs I've ever had. Sayge is the only dog Karen has kept for more than a year, and it's only because she promised my mom that she'd not get rid of her like she's gotten rid of everything else. Looks like Sayges days are numbered though, she snapped at Karen because Karen tried to wake her from a nightmare. Karen says Sayge has been very unhappy lately - YEAH DUH - you've got 10 little tiny rats (Chihuahua's) attacking her every time she moves, I'd be a little pissed too. Sayge is the most mild mannered sweet baby in the world. If she's pissed - there's a reason! I told her she was probably feeling neglected and tired of the little ones. The urge to say "I'll take her" was so strong but I can't. I won't. I've done that too many times but I feel so bad for Sayge. She's been alone all her life, except when she was living here and she got all the attention, she knew she was loved. Now she's got these tiny dogs getting all Karen's attention and Jeff isn't there so she's sad. I do have to say one good thing about Jeff - he NEVER neglected Sayge, he always cared for her more than the other dogs.
I told Karen about my adventure to the hair dresser. Believe it or not, she went nuts! How dare they talk to me that way, how dare they question my mothering skills and my person. She was livid (SHOCKED ME) She says I am the best mother she knows (except for our own) and that she'd trust me with her life and her children's lives. She was also offended by the comments on Becca. She says that all Becca has to do is see how her Aunt Karen is living and she'll know how NOT to live her life. This was the first conversation I've had with my sister in years where she didn't blow me off. I was quite moved! She says she thinks she needs a hair cut and after 16 years of avoiding Leslie, she's going to set up an appointment - Oh boy do I want to be there!
Karen called, said she got a job at Village Inn. Of course she was suppose to start working last Wednesday but she ended up with Strep throat - doesn't have the money to go to the doctor so she's hoping they will let her start work sometime next week if she feels better. She wanted me to go to Cecil's with her last night. Wanted me to drink a few beers with her and hang out. She misses me. I made Chris tell her NO cause she wouldn't take no for an answer from me. She told Chris she was worried about me and thought I needed a night out! Am I dying and no one wants to tell me about it? Why is she finally being nice to me? She must want something....OH NO! A place to stay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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